- Rome wasn't built in a day Success partly comes down to building experience and learning from doing, so do not expect to be a resilience expert on day one. It takes time to reach the stage where you have "seen all this before".
- Value the tough times It is hard to learn how to be strong when nothing bad has happened. Gaining practical experience will help you get through the next tricky period.
- Treasure (and use) your mentors Everyone has a few people they can turn to in a crisis. Do just that and ask them for advice. Be clear about what the problem is and what you think might be a better outcome, then ask how they think you should get through it. Use their support sparingly: that way, they'll know it's important when you ask for help.
- Take care of yourself It's obvious, but you will have a much better chance of achieving success if your overall wellbeing is contributing to it.
- Look on the bright side Research shows that people who have a positive outlook live for longer. Be optimistic: believing there are always sunny uplands ahead will boost your energy levels and increase your ability to face whatever happens next.
- Make choices and stick to your priorities Knowing what's important and staying focused on that will help you beat away some of the noise and self-doubt that can creep in during difficult experiences.
- It is not slavery, it is not prison; it is a job or a career You can always choose not to be there. Of course, there will be consequences – financial, if nothing else – of walking away, but you didn't sign up for life. Hold onto that.
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